Today, I am going to talk about 2 recent events that have got me thinking about....taking what we have for granted. I will try my best to be direct and to the point.
Event Number 1: While I was at work last week (as a cashier), a woman came through my line with I believe her grandson. She must have been over 50 years old at least. The boy said in a joking way, "You are a mean old ugly lady" and the woman replied, "well that is okay, because the one person in the world that counts as in my husband still thinks I'm beautiful"
Event Number 2: While I was at work again last, one of the cashiers that I was working next to ( I don't even know the person, but began a random conversation with her while be both didn't have any customers). So I asked her if she was doing anything exciting that weekend, and she said not really. I said I don't really have too much to do when I am home for the summer from college and that I was really excited to leave that upcoming week to see my girlfriend! Of course me acting a fool getting all excited, I then asked her if she goes to college? She said she had already finished, and me being shocked asked what she graduated in? She replied by saying that she only went to college for a couple semesters and didn't finish because college just wasn't for her and financially she couldn't afford it. She then said that she is okay working in retail and in factory work for the time being because she is happy and it keeps her financially stable at the time. She said it with a serious face, with a side smile as if she didn't care what other people thought. She didn't care that she didn't go to college, she is doing what she wants to do, what makes HER happy.
So who ever may be reading to this point, if I was to ask you if you could make not going to college anymore, or if you could live without your cellphone for months at a time, or if I told you that you were going to have to drive a really cheap car that barely works, could you DO IT? You may be asking, what is my POINT in all of this? This all got me thinking, how the little things I take advantage of, as well as most people do.
We all want (well most I'm "assuming") want to have that special someone that they can call theirs. Someone to be by their said through the dark and bright times. Someone that won't judge them for who they are, and can laugh with them through their stupid moments. Someone who can show unconditional love, even if their not the greatest looking. Someone they can trust and look in the eye and mean what they say. Someone that wants to be around for a while, not just a month or two. THIS WOMAN, I tell you what, with how old she was she didn't care what other people thought, but rather accepted who she was and realized that the person that means the most to her still thought she was beautiful. This moment really made me freeze for a moment, because honestly it shouldn't matter what people think of you, because the people that mean the most in your life, know who you really are. Don't let other people bring you down for their negativity, because even if its just 1 or 2 people out there, that there is someone who understands YOU, and if not, the least care about the person that you are.
In reference to this co-worker of mine, it made me THINK. In society today it is looked more highly upon for people to go to college after high school and earn their degree in order to get a well paying job. Well if there is anything I have learned in my 21 years of existence it is that the moment you START to compare yourself to others then you doing yourself an injustice!! You can't look at other peoples lives and think thats how yours should be. Everyone has different family, friends, and quite frankly lives. No one said you have to completely understand someone and the reason for why they are the way they are, but an important thing to remember is that everyone is different.
Everyone chooses a different path in life. Some choose to go to college, some choose love over friendships, some choose moving away from their hometown, some people settle in their own hometown, some people travel the world, what everyone should think about doing is living the life THEY WANT.
Heck I am 21 years old (old fart huh?..nahhh) and I have many dreams and goals I would like to accomplish someday. Some reasonable, some are far fetched. Are they hall accomplish-able? YES. Will I need help? More than likely. What is it going to come down to how much I am willing to risk and give up in order to accomplish all these? I don't know, but one thing I am certain about, I need to focus on me and not OTHERS. Easier said then done, but what im focused on is being HAPPY. What will be my main focus of happiness 5 or 10 years from now? Heck if I know, a lot will change between now and then. I know what makes me happy now, but I don't need you to focus on me, focus on YOU. Ask yourself that, when you know it don't lost track of it. Some things in life come around once in a life time, and well quite frankly you only live once. Catchy huh, but its true. What makes you happy, Don't worry about tomorrow, live for today.
One day at a time: Thats the motto: one day at a TIME.
Don't compare yourself to others, live YOUR LIFE, and please..please..do what makes you happy, no matter who or what that may be, because thats what matters at the end of the day. God Bless
Grant H.
