So today is currently Wednesday, and I just returned back to school from Fall Break yesterday on Tuesday.
We all have heard of the bend but don't break theory BUT
Today I want to relate this theory to our LIVES.
Here are some questions to ponder?
Why do we get upset over exam grades?
Why do we get upset over relationships?
Why do we allow people to continually use us for their own benefits?
Why is it that our family can easily upset us?
Why did we decide to go college?
Why did we chose to be in a relationship with someone?
Why do we look at our best friends as being our "best" friend
Why do we feel that we have a hard time expressing our emotions to others, including the people that are supposed to be the closest to you?
Why do we fight?
Why do we look to music for comfort?
Why do people say they feel so lonely sometimes?
How does the bend but don't break theory relate to you?
When I was home this past weekend on Saturday I had a conversation with my mom. Out of the whole conversation I had with her, the statement that stuck with me the most was : "I just want you to be happy, no matter what you do"
Sound simple? Maybe so, but look at it this way. WE ALL make decisions whether it is consciously or unconsciously to have happiness in our daily lives. Some decisions we make are not always the ones we would like to make, but sometimes you have to settle for a not so great option.
For example, I live about 2 hours and 15 mins away from my hometown. As a freshman I was ready for a new beginning, a new start with new friends and experiences.I could of went to college 30 mins away from my house, but I chose to do something bigger. I was nervous about having to meet new friends, and being away from my family, but it worked out in the long run. The bend but don't break theory. I didn't let that choice debilitate my experience here, but rather I embraced it and wouldn't change it for anything.
I have made mistakes in my life, as well as everyone has, but one thing you have to keep in mind is to never let one thing, person, choice, or event change who you are or make you doubt yourself.
S**t HAPPENS! Sometimes the little things, can turn into big things if not dealt with. The problem is, sometimes we over react to certain situations. I believe everyone wants to be loved to a certain extent, have a best friend, be needed by someone else, be successful, have a goal for their future, have a plan...and with that being said one little instance shouldn't change your feelings on certain situations.
BEND BUT DONT BREAK THEORY...We all run into difficulties but we shouldn't let that define who we are. If you want to say something to someone, want to get something off your chest even if it is to a complete stranger than why not. Sometimes the best advice can be given from someone who doesn't know us really well, because their reactions are unbiased.
BACK TO MY QUESTIONS ABOVE...You notice how many of them started with "WHY"?
I did that because sometimes we just want an explanation, a reason for why things happen. I do it sometimes too believe me!
Maybe you have over reacted in the past, said things you wish you wouldn't have, waited too long to tell someone how you felt. This doesn't come down to others, but really YOU.
How you live your life is up to you, but the bend but dont break theory happens everyday.
MY POINT???....Never let someone else stop you from you living your life to the fullest, fulfilling your dreams and goals, enjoying your life, hanging out with you want to hangout with. You have something on your chest? Don't be afraid to say something, because there is a good chance someone else is feeling the same way too. I've seen friends and family in my life be heartbroken, feeling like they have lost it all, but in reality they just need HOPE.
BEND BUT DON'T BREAK THEORY: Be who you want to be, do want you want to do, people need you, you need people, be that backbone, be the one that stands up for what you believe in.
Bend but DONT BREAK: Be flexible and understand that you will hit road blocks, times when you just are over emotional, or even react and thats a time when you should just take a step back.
Maybe we all just wish to be understood more, I personally don't know!
One thing I am sure about is, so many people rely on YOU. Whether you know it or not, someone looks up to you no matter how big or small!
Be that person that you are, and NEVER let something stop you from loving who you want to love or doing what you want to do.
Bend but dont break theory. Ya dig?
